If someone experienced a lifetime of experience in just one complicated relationship (to say the least); the phrase was always “I can write a book on it“. With so much light shed on toxic behaviours these days, there’s no stopping anyone anymore.
Hence why I am here and the birth of this blog.
There was a time where emotional abuse was completely overlooked. And now in the UK, you can actually go to jail for it.
The dangers on heightened domestic abuse was highlighted during 2020’s first pandemic lockdown. News reporter Victoria Derbyshire even showed a scribbled helpline number on her hand, during a broadcast.
I’ll be expanding on the truths of Primary Abuse. As I only saw this term on 1 blog here. I will not only be weaving in my personal experience, but from what I knew was encountered by my circle too.
Note: where are a lot of my examples are linked toxic men, it is NOT a target on men only. It just happens to be that I am a heterosexual female, hence my experience with unhealthy men. Toxicity is applied to every gender.
My blog is raw, unfiltered and sometimes laced with swearing. That’s intentional.
Because when you survive narcissistic abuse, you learn that your voice was silenced, twisted and minimised for too long. So here, I don’t sugarcoat, dress it up in clinical jargon, or play polite. All words you see is how I felt, and I refuse to dilute that truth.
This isn’t bitterness – it’s reclaiming my power that was always mine. Anger has its place in healing, and calling abusers out without restraint is part of mine.
That said: my language is directed at my abusers, not at everyday people who are struggling with life, mental health, or circumstances beyond their control. This is not shaming ones who live with parents, have mental health conditions, or make ordinary mistakes. This is about holding narcissists and abusers accountable.
If you’re here, I hope my honesty helps you feel seen, validated, and maybe a little less alone.
Disclaimer: This post should not be used as substitute for medical or mental health advice. Individuals are advised to seek independent medical advice, counselling and/or therapy from a healthcare professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issue or mental health enquiry, including matters discussed throughout this blog. The views and opinions expressed are solely mine.
The examples shared here are anonymised and presented for educational awareness. They are not intended as factual statements about any individual.
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